Well, I called mom to fill her in, and when her son got home, she talked to him a bit before calling me back. When we spoke the second time, she told me that her son had told her he's upset with me because the African American students in the class are seated "1 at each table group" (which isn't true for all of the groups, but is true at his group and a few of the others).
Yep. Exactly what I was going for, buddy. So that's why you're constantly disrupting class and acting defiantly by lying belly down on your chair?
Anyways, my reaction to the mother was a big old, "Ummmmm.....can't say I noticed..." Honestly, there are so many things I think about when arranging seats. 2 boys and 2 girls per table. 2 lower kids and 2 higher kids. Try to surround my chatter boxes and flaming tempers with mild mannered, mellow kids. That is exactly what I had done at his table. I explained this to mom, and she was not at all accusatory. I apologized for any misunderstandings, and said I would touch base with him in the morning to share this information with him and problem-solve.
I have been dwelling on this all night though, because I am honestly pissed off. The truth is that this child is probably mad at me both for giving him a consequence, calling his mom, and probably partly because he's not seated by one of his best friends. Which he will continue to not be because of the previously mentioned problems. Anyways, he's mad, making excuses for his behavior, and trying to get me back.
Sigh. I'm just glad this exhausting, long day is over. Tomorrow is another day. I will not let a ten year old get the best of me or unnerve me. I will keep trying tomorrow.